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The Big Red Etch a Sketch

August 31, 2014 by Kathy Weckwerth

My youngest daughter, Jenessa, is an artist.  Ever since she was a little girl, she would sit down in the middle of the floor, her crayons, scissors, glitter and glue sprawled out beside her, and would begin the adventurous task of creating some new work of art.

But on her 7th birthday, Jenessa received an all-time favorite gift … an Etch-a- Sketch.  Life had propelled from the everyday mundane, to the extra-ordinary, in my little girl’s mind.

I loved to watch Jenessa’s creations come to life on that old red Etch-a-Sketch. etchasktetch

Many years later, one of my worship team members, who was also an artist, brought in a bright green Etch-a-Sketch, with the fabulous face of Scooby Doo etched into the toy.  I was elated!

About three weeks later, a small child came into the office with his mother, and when I wasn’t watching, he took that Etch-a-Sketch, and shook it hard.  Utter dismay!  Away went the face of my favorite cartoon character, and replaced it with complete blank shades of grey.  My heart sunk.  Although I didn’t say anything to the mother, I felt sure that my Etch-a-sketch would never hold the same picture again.

Do you ever feel that way about life?  I know I have so often.  It seems to me a bit like this … Our very being is the Etch-a-Sketch of our lives.  We draw and create our hopes and dreams, the very desires of our hearts, all the way from the inner-workings and core of who we are, sketching them into our minds, only to have the world and circumstances come along and shake things up.  We are left with a blank screen.  Everything seems lost.  Everything looks erased.

This past week I experienced deep troubles that shook up the very soul of my being.  I had spent hours and hours diligently reading scripture, praying and fasting, while seeking the next route for our ministry.

Along came a situation and some circumstances that made me remember that old Etch-a-Sketch, as I curled up in my big green chair with my hot cup of tea, holding back the tears.  My dreams seemed erased.  Life had come in for a big, huge shake down, and my picture was gone.

And just as surely as I thought the plans were changed, I remembered something.  The God of the Universe, the very God who sent His Son for us, is the Ultimate Creator … the Artist of our lives.  He is the One who turns those knobs on the board of our lives, and designs the picture on our screen.  He is the One, who has created who we are, and knows the inner workings of every place and inner corner of our hearts and souls.  If that same God is the Artist, why would I not relax into allowing Him to redo that picture?  Perhaps it will just look even sharper, clearer, and crisper to me now.

I remember now,  from the days of long ago, that my dear artist friend came in to visit me, plopped down on the couch and said, “Oh, here, let me re-do that for you.”  A few moments later, out came a better rendition of Scooby Doo than I remembered.  It was even more suited to my taste and who I was.  It was sharper, clearer, crisper and more defined now, and I breathed a sigh of relief as I displayed it on my top shelf!

God is doing that for us as we allow Him to use us and have control over us. [callout]The world and circumstances may shake us to the core, until we can’t see straight, can’t see the road, can’t see the picture, but God is the Artist of who we are, and He will come in and re-create.  We must remain in faith. [/callout]

Be comforted with me from His Words today:

Psalm 139:13-16(MSG)

Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
before I’d even lived one day.

 

Good Grief

August 4, 2014 by Kathy Weckwerth

 

woman prayingThe phone rang and I picked it up saying, “Hello?”

On the other end was a dear friend sobbing, crying, barely uttering words.

I said, “Slow down, deep breath, and start from the beginning.  Don’t miss any details.”

I learned that line from Good Friend, Carolyn, years ago, and have used it ever since.

My friend began to recite details of some hard times she was going through.  Health issues, financial burdens, and a rocky relationship with her child were at the top of the list.  She was struggling.

As I listened, I quietly prayed and asked God for help on what to say, how to respond, and how to comfort.

When people are grieving and in a difficult spot, they need the following:

  1. Grace (no judgment)
  2. Listening Ears (no talking, just listening)
  3. Comfort (gentle words and kindness)
  4. Prayer (literally, pray with that person at the end of the conversation)

There is a trend happening today, and it’s not a good one.  We are too busy with ourselves.  We are busy with our jobs, our children, our houses, our cooking, our photos, phones, and recreation.  And the trend is that we just don’t care.

This past week, in a state of desperate need, I connected with several friends, none of which responded to my text messages, emails, phone calls, or facebook.  It sunk in that I must do a better job encouraging, praying, and listening, because I think it’s a pattern that’s slowly taking over our society.

[callout]When people are in need, our job is to RESPOND!  Our job is to be like Christ and RESPOND!  No matter what the need is, be it, sickness, loss of job, trouble with marriage or family, or whatever. [/callout]

R-Reply quickly

E-Encourage

S-Serve

P-Pray

O-Offer help

N-Never judge

D-Deliver respect 

Is someone waiting on you today?  Is there someone in your life who gave a quiet, desperate plea for help and now they don’t know how to get a hold of you because you’re not responding?

Ignoring others is unkind and can seem selfish, even when we don’t mean it to be.  We have every opportunity today to help others via internet, iphones, text messages, facebook, and even facetiming others.

Grief is something we all go through on a continual basis.  It’s part of living on Planet Earth.  It’s time to step up to bat, put down our water skis, our easy bake ovens, and get to the bottom of the needs of others.

[callout]Take a moment right now to call, email, text someone who is hurting.  Grief is never a good thing, but it can be a time where you can make it a God-thing. [/callout]

 

Colossians 3:15 “And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.”

Facing Things Alone

July 24, 2014 by Kathy Weckwerth

 

Facing things alone .. by Kathy A. Weckwerth

photo by (pure heart) photography

photo by (pure heart) photography

This week was one filled with angst and trepidation and looking back, I thank God for the signs that He comforted me with as He reminded me … we are never alone.

I think about it often … the days where no one can face what we’re up against but us.  Can you relate?

There are days when you have to go in for an MRI, or you’re delivering your child, or you lost your daddy.  Those are the moments when you’d like to say to your friend or neighbor, you go through this because I don’t want to.

You walk in the hospital doors, you feel the fear that everyone is moving on with their lives but yours has stopped due to the trouble that’s engulfing you.

The woman standing next to you looks as though she is in a trance as the old man next to her gets up coughing and walks down the hall looking up and glancing at you, but you can see he’s as frightened as you are in this moment in time and space.

The nurse is chatty as she talks incessantly about her upcoming vacation to Montana, while needles are pushed in your arm to send pretentious dye into your veins, preparing you for the tests.

As you enter the MRI testing area, the technician rushes you, barks orders and lacks any kind of sympathy or bedside manner.  Your head is encompassed in a small mask while you’re pushed into a long tube and pray that you’ll never have to do this again.

And that’s the moment.  There it is.  It’s the same moment that comes when they say, “It’s time to push now,” and you feel the horrific pain  but know there will be an end to it.  Or it’s like the same moment when you walk down the church aisle and realize that the casket in front of you carries the loved one that you will never hear laugh or sing again.

Those moments where you realize that there is no one else on earth who can walk through it for you, are at times … the worst.  And yet, as you lay inside that tube with the horrific pounding of jack hammers in your ears, there is a peaceful place inside your mind, with sweet purple flowers and fields of green that greet you.  And you hear the Voice of your Savior whispering, “I am here.  You are not alone.  I have known about this day since the beginning of time.  I am your God, you are my child.  I will never leave you.  I am here.  I am right here with you.”  Peace begins to rush through the veins, circumventing the dye that has taken over and you feel a comfort that no human can give you.

[callout]Faith is mustered in those moments.  Sometimes it’s fragile and weak.  Sometimes it’s barely traceable.  And sometimes it stands up with strong hope and says, I am not alone for my God is with me.[/callout]

In the moments of your life, when fear and harm, when torment and sorrow meet loneliness, when you are the only one who can face the doctor, face the pain, face the darkness, you remember what God has told us … we are never, ever, ever alone, when we have Jesus as our Lord and Savior.  We walk with Him … and what a great peace we have when we know that He walks before us.

Grace and peace to you on the journey facing the challenges that only you alone can face,

Kathy 

 

“The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”  Deut. 31:8

 

 

Your World

June 5, 2014 by Kathy Weckwerth

By:  Kathy A. Weckwerth

It was 19 years ago that I picked up the phone and answered politely, “Hello, law office.”  The woman on the other end of the line was very snappy.  Actually, snappy doesn’t even begin to describe it.  She was downright unkind.

The voice began, “I want answers and I want them now!”  She continued and insisted that I would help her, I would do this and that, and yet, she was the opposing counsel.

Serving as a legal assistant in the office, I could help her with a few things, but because of her attitude, I cringed as she continued to lambast me with what our office was doing wrong.

Something hit me hard … a thought … that perhaps, just maybe she was having trouble.  I paused and asked her,  “Debra, are you okay today?” Not condescending, not unkind, just genuine.

“What?” she asked.

“Well, you just seem kind of upset and I’m wondering if you’re having a bad day, or maybe something is horribly wrong? “I questioned.

There was a quick few seconds of silence and she answered, “Well, actually, yes.  I fell and hurt my back and I just feel awful.  The days are so long at work and another lawyer just left for vacation so my work load doubled.”

On and on Debra went with her woes as I quietly listened.  When she finished I said to her, “Debra, let’s pray together.”  I didn’t know if Debra believed in Jesus, I didn’t know if she ever set foot inside of a church, but I knew that Debra was stressed, needed help, and felt no one cared.

As an assistant to the opposing counsel to Debra, I should have been mean, told her to jump in a river, and hung up the phone.  My boss accused me of being “too nice” to the other side whenever we were preparing a case.  But I needed to help someone that needed help.

From that moment on, Debra called regularly, even when she moved on to another office.  I would listen, chat and pray.

And then something interesting happened.  The more that our clients called and talked about their aches and pains from their accidents, the more I began to listen and to pray with them.  I created a great repore and felt that I was encouraging those who needed prayer and hope.

My point?  [callout]We never know what’s happening in other people’s worlds.  Perhaps they just had a bad car accident.  Maybe their spouse just passed away.  Or maybe they lost their job, lost their home, or lost their hope.[/callout]

So often, this can create a short fuse and bring out the worst in people.  If I would have responded to Debra as I felt she deserved, it wouldn’t have been my best version of myself.

I will never forget the lesson I learned from one crabby phone call.  And so today, when someone snapped at me, I just paused and said, “Hey, what’s going on in your world?  Are you doing okay?”

We never really know what’s going on in other people’s lives until we find out.  Right? 

Circle of Encouragement

May 14, 2014 by Kathy Weckwerth

Circle of Encouragement

By: Kathy A. Weckwerth

“What makes you do that?” the young girl looked at me with big eyes and asked almost apprehensively.

SONY DSC“What?”  I questioned.

“The encouragement thing.  You know, how you encourage people … why do you do it?” she continued.

“Because in this world, there aren’t enough people encouraging others.  There aren’t enough cheerleaders.  There aren’t enough people interested in others.  And quite frankly, people feel bad about themselves and need to be lifted up.” I answered matter of factly.

(photo by Christal Ruppert)

The truth is … no one makes time for encouragement.  No one takes time to build into others.  Why?  I believe it’s one of these three things:

  1. They don’t feel good about themselves, so they don’t feel confident to build someone else up.

When we feel confident in who we are and our own gifts, we have no problem lifting others up and making them aware of the good things they’re doing.

  1. They don’t know how to encourage someone.

Often, people think that they have to be a gifted communicator to be able to tell someone what a great job they’re doing, or how much they enjoyed their presentation, or how beautiful/handsome they look all dressed up.

  1. No one encourages them so they don’t think they should have to encourage someone else.

So often, our pride stops us from telling someone they are doing a great job or they are smart, kind, lovable, funny, a great blogger, a gifted writer, or a kind listener.  If we lift someone else up, doesn’t that mean that we’re less?  NO!!!  It means that you are doing exactly what Christ wants you to do … encourage one another!

Many years ago, I served at a large church. A man on my worship team was very competitive, egotistical and jealous.  So frequently he would criticize me as the leader and many on the team.  Although I would quickly try to combat and intercept his criticism, everyone knew that you could never measure up to whatever it was in life he was looking for and couldn’t find!

I often wondered why someone as gifted as he was would feel threatened by others and their giftedness.  And then I realized something, perhaps no one believed in him.  Or perhaps, he felt that he would become less if he lifted others up.

Scripture tells in James 4:10 that we are to “humble ourselves in the sight of the Lord and He will lift you up.”  We don’t need to be self-serving and look for compliments.  We need to focus on others and encourage them, believe in them, and cheer them on!

[callout]The blessing comes to us the moment we bless others.  Our focus is off of ourselves and onto someone else and God uses our words to help heal, encourage, and spur others on to good works.[/callout]

If you haven’t encouraged someone for a long time, today is the day to do it.  How can you encourage someone?

  1. Write an email or an old-fashioned note that you mail at the post office!
  2. Text message or facebook someone and tell them they’re doing great.
  3. Tell them how proud you are of them in front of others.
  4. Post little sticky notes all over their desk, locker, purse, wallet … life … and say “I’m so proud of you!”  And tell them why.

Encouragement is so important.  Building one another up is God’s plan.

It just makes life better.

Make it your best life. 

1 Thessalonians 5:11 “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” (NLT)

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