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Living Your Best Life

Becoming a Person of Authenticity

February 2, 2017 by Kathy Weckwerth

This topic takes me back to 6th grade.  A girl who had been in my same classes year after year, just didn’t like me.  walked home with her from school and said, “I’m so sorry we haven’t gotten along very well.  I’d really like to try to be friends.”

If that wasn’t real and authentic, I don’t know what was.  I remember feeling like I’d poured everything from my heart right out onto the sidewalk.

Without missing a beat she looked straight at me and said, “I don’t know what you’re talking about.”

Boom.  That was it.  I recoiled inside myself and thought I’m never pouring my heart out again.  Oh, but I did.  So much so, that Dad told me one day, Kathleen if you have any character flaws it’s this one for sure … you wear your heart on your sleeve.

Open and honest.  That’s how I like to be.  Vulnerable …. well that’s scary.  But genuine, that’s more my speed.  What about you?  When we’re thinking about being authentic and not being fake but really truly being real in our everyday life … what people see is what they get, how are you doing?

That’s authenticity to the core.  Real … believable.  No shame.  No hiding.  No embarrassment.  Just real.

And what about that vulnerability factor?  Well, if you’re anything like me and you’ve had the trust kicked right out of you, vulnerable isn’t something you want to be.  But in order to truly reach people at a deep level, you have to allow yourself to display these things: authenticity, realness and vulnerability.

The down side … people can hurt us.  They can look you smack in the eyes and say “Huh?  I don’t get it.”  Because guess what … they’re not being real.  Or you can risk being vulnerable and have people make fun of you, laugh at you, or be unkind to you.  That’s painful.  I know.

I think about some serious times in my life when I was really hurt, but sometimes it’s the funny ones that stick in the forefront of your brain.

I remember getting up in front of 400 people at one of my church services and saying my usual, “Good morning, and welcome.”  I’d start out with something emotional or funny, or something to connect them to the sermon topic.  Mostly, it would be about scripture, sometimes about Farmer Dean.

One day I told the congregation about how I mistook the back field of soybeans for corn.  I was new to the farm, saw the short crop and thought something was terribly wrong with the corn.  Until Farmer Dean told me, “those are soybeans.”

The crowd roared.  In my vulnerability, I was proving a point.  That I made mistakes just like the next guy.  And you know what the vulnerability did?  It made me closer to everyone of those people.  We laughed together at my silliness and I let them in to my soul.  They didn’t ransack.  They didn’t ridicule.  They just embraced me for my authenticity.  I told them the truth.  I make silly mistakes.

Here’s what I know about Being Authentic and Real …

  1. It takes maturity to do this.
  2. You have to be comfortable with who you are.
  3. You have to trust others
  4. It makes you stronger
  5. It opens you up to criticism, jealousy, and the pickers … people who are going to pick you apart because your heart is open and on the table.
  6. It can make people mad (because they’re not real)
  7. It can get you in trouble because sometimes closed people resent authenticity.
  8. It’s the best choice to be your best.

Scripture tells us in Proverbs 12:22 “Lying lips are abomination to the Lord: but they that deal truly are his delight.”

Are we dealing truthfully with one another?  With ourselves? Just try it this week.  Try being your real self.  Just real.

Who knows, maybe people will laugh right alongside of you, and become even closer to you because you were truly authentic and real.  Maybe you’ll think that corn is soybeans, and life will still continue … just maybe.

 

5 Steps to Dealing With People Who Annoy You

May 29, 2015 by Kathy Weckwerth

Through the years I served as a Worship Director, and now as an Executive Director of a nonprofit.  I have dealt with the aggravation, the angst, and the disappointment of people who are challenging and really bug me.

In my own personal world, I have had struggles with friends and family members who, at the very least, are the ones I  deem the “drive-me-crazies.” If you’re anything like me, you’ve dealt with the same thing!

This week, I had a strange conversation with someone that went like this:

Greeting/conversation/stupid comments/me feeling annoyed/me left wondering how do I even respond/me feeling more annoyed.

I prayed and opened my Bible seeking the only One who really gets Crazy-Land people and knows how to deal with them … Jesus.

In Matthew 16:1-4, we see the setting … the Pharisees and the Sadducees are doing what they do so well … bugging Jesus.

Step 1. “The Pharisees and Sadducees came to Jesus and tested him by asking him to show them a sign from heaven.” (the initial bugging)

Step 2. Jesus … Listening to them.

Step 3. Jesus … Thinking before responding.

Step 4. “He replied, “When evening comes, you say, ‘It will be fair weather, for the sky is red,’ and in the morning, ‘Today it will be stormy, for the sky is red and overcast.’ You know how to interpret the appearance of the sky, but you cannot interpret the signs of the times. A wicked and adulterous generation looks for a sign, but none will be given it except the sign of Jonah.” (healthy, honest response).

Step 5. “Jesus then left them and went away.” (just walk away).

Jesus listened to the people who bugged Him. But, after remaining calm and dealing with them, he is honest and walks away.

Step 1: Take a deep breath and remain calm
Step 2: Listen … listen … and then listen some more
Step 3: Think before you respond.
Step 4: Don’t fight, but be honest, real, and authentic
Step 5: Forgive and walk away.

[callout]This week, I remained calm, listened, thought about how to respond, and then said my authentic honest piece and walked away.[/callout]

I may not have a friendship out of this relationship, but then again, I guess I really don’t want one. After all, Jesus stuck by 12 friends who were only slightly irritating once and awhile.

He just loved people like crazy,  dealt with them honestly … and gently, ever-so-wisely … walked away.

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